Here we go again ~ my stepdad is in the hospital AGAIN. This time he fell off a ladder which he shouldn't have been, nor needed to be on. He broke his leg. He had surgery around 10:00 pm Tuesday to repair the leg. I guess there are rods & pins... the normal thing when someone breaks a leg.
My dear husband retrieved my mom from the hospital at 1:00 AM since the ambulance crew insisted she ride with my sf when they took him in. Still not exactly sure why that was needed but anything to make an already bad situation worse and more inconvenient. Doug had to get up at 5 so needless to say we were all exhausted yesterday.
So while he lays in his cushy hospital bed barking orders, Mother & I are handling everything else, as usual. He hasn't been doing much anyway since he became sick. I'm not talking about physical duties, I've been handling most of that, it's handling of issues with the business and what not he occasionally handled now fall mostly upon my mom.
I realize I am not sounding very sympathetic. Of course I am sorry he broke his leg but it is the circumstances that irritate me. He didn't need to be on the ladder - his health is too poor and he is too weak (physically) to be pruning trees and the kicker is he was to have a new employee start on the farm today. It could have waited until today and the new fellow would have been more than capable of handling the task. Always something with him, he's just that kind of person it seems.
As they say, this too shall pass. It's going to be a long road though with all of his other health issues. It's my poor mom I feel sorry for the most, she is always stuck taking care of him in one way or another.
Other than this everything else is going okay, all the animals are doing well and enjoying our beautiful autumn weather. It was 29 this morning...brrrr...time to get out the warm clothes!! I enjoy how crisp & clean everything feels.
That's all for today ~ I realize you must think I am a total witch but as they say, you just don't know what goes on behind the scenes.
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Not a witch! Just a human! Sorry about the hassles! You are right, he had no business up on that ladder. I hope someone at least told him that much! Blessings to you! and to him.
I couldn't help but be aggravated too that he would climb that ladder. When I saw your headline on my blog list I told Doc, "Something is wrong to the Bison Farm. I hope one of the bison did not die!" Well, alteast nobody died, but your poor Mom. I hope her health is not impaired from all the stress and strain. I totally understand your sentiments. And concern for her.
((Lisa))
I'm so sorry to hear that this happened. But I'm really sorry for the burden on you and your Mom---just so silly. And I agree, he should not have been on that darn ladder! I should talk right?
Take good care and I hope this all works out.
Hugs, Gayla
I remember when my dad was getting up in age-he 'hated' admitting he couldn't do for himself.A strong man who always takes care of the things himself and has to 'ask' or hire someone to do it-to this kind of man makes him feel less of a man...it's a walk a mile in my shoes thing....
Your mother will get a crown of glory on the other side for her selfless duties...bless her and you...many hugs!!!
What a thing to happen...trust your Dad to be up a ladder..typical man !! Hope the stay in hospital won't be long then at least you won't have to go visiting on top of everything else.
TRY not to be doing to much Mum either !! note I put TRY in capitals !!!!
love to the witch !! from Sybil ( or as referred to by my darlin niece "The old bat" !!)
sorry to hear about your dad,some times us guys do things to try to feel like we can do it or feel like we are needed.
Sorry to hear about that (unnecessary?) mishap to your stepfather, Lisa. I wish you all strength in coping with this situation.
Sorry to hear that Lisa, men will be boys I suppose! Sometimes they lack common sense and consideration to their family. I hope you cope OK with all the extra looking after he'll need. Take care of yourself too! Jeannette xx
Well you certainly have your hands full and your poor Mother. No, he should not have been up that ladder but try telling men they should not be doing something......
I know about those closed doors. Sympathy to your Mom and you. I have a feeling you're gonna need it before this is over.
No you're not a witch, just frustrated & I don't blame you. You're right~he shouldn't have been on the ladder. What was he thinking? It sounds like he's one of those types of people who has to always be doing something. Hopefully, that broken leg will heal quickly. Meanwhile, lock up all ladders!! Hang in there Lisa, sorry this happened....Linda in rainy & windy Washington
No, not a witch! ;) I don't know how old your step father is, but I know it is hard for them to give up their independence and quit doing things they were always accustomed to doing. What am I saying -- it's hard for ME to quit doing something that isn't as easy as it used to be. Anyway, I hope he heals quickly and that the stress to your mom is minimal. I think we all understand how you are feeling and no one thinks you the worse for it. You, your husband, and your mother have been unnecessarily put in a situation of stress and extra work, and I hope that you get through it okay.
I'm sorry you guys are going through this. Men of that generation are stubborn asses. They don't want to be seen as weak and unable to take care of what they've always been able to take care of so rather than do what they SHOULD do, they do what they WANT to. My grandfather had lung cancer, had part of one lung removed and was still out doing shit he wasn't supposed to and wasn't strong enough to handle. JACKASSES that generation. Good luck!
Love,
Jamie
Your step-father does the type of things my DMIL does. At their age they don't want to admit that they're not the spring chickens they once were. My MIL still climbs up on the roof to check for damage when limbs drop and to throw them down. She's 76. And frail. Weighs maybe 100 pounds and wears a colostomy bag from a prior cancer surgery. You don't sound like a witch to me but like you'd just wonder if somewhere in his subconscious mind, he was wanting to make sure that your Mother continued to be a full time caregiver to him and the business. I'm glad the animals are still ok. I'm loving the cool crisp Autumn weather too.
Love, Ne
You are just telling it like it is Lisa, nothing bad about that. I take care of my very stubborn mother so I totally know where you are coming from! Grab your broom we can ride together, LOL! :-)
Lisa, ,what a time you all have been having. So sorry you are back into the (take care of everyting phase), My doings are in a much smaller way, but I take care of just about everythin, and here, it is so hard to get anyone to do anything, I set things up and then no one shows, I
Send you Mom my prayers and best wishes, andhope she can get through this one, as ,knowing how strong you are ,you will help her through it, Please take care of yourself, and that husband of yours, Love Ya, Kayo
Oh no! I'll keep him in my prayers that he heals qucikly from the broken leg. OUCH!
Hi Lisa,
If there is a silver lining in your post--it's that people like me don't make the SAME mistake... lol. I have had similar family challenges in my life and know exactly what you are going thru.
Thanks for the prayers and well wishes concerning my wife's illness.
Hugs,
Tom S
tschuckman@aol.com
Disabled Vietnam Veteran: 68-70
Jesus is Lord.
Actually, I totally understand, Lisa. Sometimes I want to say, "What were you thinking?" when my folks or in-laws do something like that. I hope he has a speedy recovery, and that it was a lesson well-learned. :/
So proud of you for still not smoking! Big hugs! Beth
Lisa, Catching up on posts. I LOVE your Quitmeter at the bottom of your blog. Wish I could have one to show to my patients. As for your SF... you're not a witch. I am sure we all have had similar feelings from time to time about our relatives. Enjoy the weather, enjoy your animals. Hugs, Veronica
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